5 Things Montessori Parents DON’T Need to Do
Parenting. It’s one of the most incredible journeys available in the human experience. But in recent decades, parenting has become a little bit more stressful. Between our evolving culture and the constant availability of information via the internet, parents are constantly bombarded with suggestions, studies, and opinions about what they must do in the best interest of their child.
Of course, there isn’t just one perfect way of parenting. We all need to find our own way and the best way for our child. We know that it’s impossible to take all the advice, but it can still feel pretty overwhelming.
As a Montessori Family, there are plenty of things it’s totally fine (and actually a great idea) to not stress about. Here are five things Montessori parents do not need to do:
1. Purchase Montessori materials
Often, enthusiastic new-to-Montessori families want to go all-in and create a mini classroom at home. Montessori can translate into the home environment, but without using the classic materials.
It is not recommended that Montessori materials be used in the home without a properly trained Montessori Guide. There are two main reasons for this. First, these materials were created to be used in a specific sequence and in very specific ways. There are special ways to present the materials, and Guides learn all of this when they attend their Montessori training courses.
The second reason is - there are so many other more enriching ways Montessori can be applied in the home! We encourage parents to learn about the philosophy and find ways it naturally fits into your everyday life. There’s no need to spend lots of money on fancy wooden learning materials. Let the materials remain in the classroom environment and allow the basic ideas of Montessori to trickle into the home and reverberate into all aspects of the child’s life.
2. Focus on academics
Let us be totally clear: we are in no way saying that academics don’t matter. Quite the opposite! We know they matter.
In an authentic Montessori school, the curriculum and methods support a very rigorous academic program. Children will be mastering advanced skills at younger-than-average ages. You will likely be astounded by what you see your own child learning.
In our education of the whole child, we believe academics should not be the only focus of the child’s education.
We are confident that our students will have appropriate and enriching academic opportunities, and will also be held to appropriate academic expectations. We also know that learning is very much an individual process. It’s not linear, there will be plateaus, and there will definitely be unexpected twists and turns.
We trust that the child will arrive at the destination when they are supposed to. We also know that along the way we have many other important tasks: to support their social and emotional growth, to expose them to creative and artistic pursuits, to ensure sufficient time spent in nature, and to understand what it means to be a peaceful member of a community.
3. Hesitate to communicate
Throughout your child’s academic career, you will have lots of questions. That’s great! Regardless of what’s on your mind, we want parents in our community to always feel comfortable talking to us.
Montessori Guides are busy people, but they are completely dedicated to the wellbeing of their students. When they receive an email, note, or voicemail from a parent, rest assured that they are eager to get back to you.
We believe that education is a three-way partnership between the child, their parents, and our Guides. Communication is the key to everything running smoothly.
So, the next time you’re unsure about whether or not to reach out, please do! We are here to help.
4. Compare children
This is such an easy trap to fall into! Parents love to talk about their children, and we often find ourselves chatting with other parents. This inevitably leads us to notice what other people’s children are up to, and our minds can sometimes (naturally) compare that to what our own child is doing.
We all know this already, but it’s worth the reminder. Don’t compare your child to others! Child development varies widely, so what may seem concerning may often just be part of your child’s developmental journey.
That child that started reading earlier than all the others? That doesn’t mean they’ll turn out to be a better reader than anyone else.
Your son is still wetting the bed at night but your daughter stopped years before? It’s completely normal.
Your child’s best friend is advancing quickly in math, while yours is frustrated at not being able to do the same work yet? Use this as an opportunity to explore the beauty of differences between people.
If we follow the child, we allow them to become the incredible, unique individual they are meant to become.
5. Homework!
One big perk in Montessori schools? There’s no homework!
Rather than spending hours struggling through Common Core math standards-based worksheets each night, you can play a board game together. Or go for a walk around your neighborhood. Or encourage your child to explore their own interests.
Our students work so hard throughout the regular school day, we see no need to continue that work in the evening at home. Adults aim to seek out a healthy work/life balance, shouldn’t we provide the same for children?
Reading together each night? A great idea - and a way to bond. Working together on a long-term project? Yes! It’s fun, educational, and stress-free. Beyond that, we encourage you to embrace the benefits of your child not having any homework.
